tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post115703210004103508..comments2023-10-28T09:42:58.346-04:00Comments on iS iT jUsT mE?: Childless and Loving ItBlu Jewelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09850562981453356321noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-78951044068574886212011-02-11T13:24:51.455-05:002011-02-11T13:24:51.455-05:00Childfree and loving it ! Could not agree more. My...Childfree and loving it ! Could not agree more. My and my wife are early 40's and have never had kids and never will. We both never wanted kids. There are really no "solid" reasons to have kids. All that pro-creation stuff is not a reason, and kids taking care of you when your old? That's never a garantee and one poor reason to be a servant to kids for 18+years with total loss of freedom and independence for most of your life. yuk. Also kids stay at home now well into thier 20's! How about that ! I truly believe that 80% of people who have kids later regret it. most will never admit to it but it's true.. true true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1158680252671874192006-09-19T11:37:00.000-04:002006-09-19T11:37:00.000-04:00I agree. Why do I constantly get asked, "How many...I agree. Why do I constantly get asked, "How many kids do you have?" NONE! I've gotten rather accustomed to going where I want when I want, and I'm a little to selfish right now to give that up. Besides, I've got to live a little, go through some things, so that I actually have something to TEACH any children I may have.ncnaynayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089726875666749001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157126945330127372006-09-01T12:09:00.000-04:002006-09-01T12:09:00.000-04:00It's like other contemporary choices that stand fo...It's like other contemporary choices that stand for the self. And that being the courage to beat predictability and expectation.Suzan Abrams, email: suzanabrams@live.co.ukhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08818807164881810296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157108716438029192006-09-01T07:05:00.000-04:002006-09-01T07:05:00.000-04:00I am with you, the mistress and blaqrayne 100% - a...I am with you, the mistress and blaqrayne 100% - and I really like the term "childfree". Mistress, I know just what you mean, I get the same dumb-assed responses and I can't help but think, hmm, do I detect some "jealousy" here. And I'm always amused when they try to sell motherhood to me. If it's so great, you don't need to sell it.<BR/>As far as I'm concerned, the world is not such a great place, so why would I want to suffer a child of mine to endure that. Besides, the planet is already overloaded and I choose not to add to the burden. <BR/>I love kids (I write for them) I just don't want to have any of my own.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04871239587214383387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157086735926796652006-09-01T00:58:00.000-04:002006-09-01T00:58:00.000-04:00I agree with you 100%.If I'm not in the position t...I agree with you 100%.<BR/><BR/>If I'm not in the position to bring a child in this world, then I won't, only for the sake of the child. But...I want me some kids!! lol. So I'm going to make sure my life is together before bringing children into it.<BR/><BR/>Good stuff!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157054340515690862006-08-31T15:59:00.000-04:002006-08-31T15:59:00.000-04:00Childfree? I like that. I'll adopt that for myself...Childfree? I like that. I'll adopt that for myself. As a brother who has yet to create any progeny, I'm glad that Mistress put it in terms for myself. I agree with both her and Blaqrayne as I've always felt that it doesn't prove or disprove anything. At 33, <BR/>I've met several women who initially didn't believe that I didn't have any kids running around somewhere, and actually, I'm <BR/>quite proud of that. <BR/><BR/>In a city with so many young sisters pushing and carrying babies, it's difficult to determine whether the child is hers, or her mother's. If so, what mother would allow a 12-13 carry a 6 month-old to the <BR/>convenient store? Life's all about choices.<BR/><BR/>Much love to all the responsible, conscious, parents who are raising the next generation. Much respect to those who are doing what they <BR/>are supposed to do. <BR/><BR/>SlimmDavid McLeodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12963367592559655514noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157049168379451482006-08-31T14:32:00.000-04:002006-08-31T14:32:00.000-04:00Don't mean to blaze up your spot, but I have anoth...Don't mean to blaze up your spot, but I have another "why" that corresponds to this topic.<BR/><BR/>I don't know how it goes down in other states, but why is it that, where we live and maybe other places, a married woman needs her husband's permission to take precautions such as a tubular and women in general go through drama to get birth control, but it's as easy as pie for a man to get Viagra despite his marital status?<BR/><BR/>I know we've spoken about this before and you share this view, but I had to let it out. ARRRGGGGHHH!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157048641826202662006-08-31T14:24:00.000-04:002006-08-31T14:24:00.000-04:00I agree with you and the mistress. I am "childfree...I agree with you and the mistress. I am "childfree" and I don't feel any voids. I do love children and play a significant role in the lives of quite a few, but I have no interest in being a mother. Some may call me selfish because my primary reasons are that I have a lot that I want to accomplish in my lifetime and I enjoy and need my freedom. My next reason is that I am a worrier to a fault. I don't know how parents cope in the world today. Children aren't safe at school, with a sitter, at a sleepover or even playing in the backyard. <BR/><BR/>Overall, I love children, but being a parent is not for me. I have more reasons, but based on the two that I've shared, I think my decision is responsible. Why bring a child into the world and risk subconsiously resenting or neglecting the child or sheltering the child? That could yield emotional abuse and potentially another dysfunctional person in the world.<BR/><BR/>My mother had me a little early. Trust me, I know she loves me to death. She's accomplished a lot in life, but sometimes I feel bad that she didn't get to do things the way that she planned. I'm almost 30 and I've felt that way since I've understood life. <BR/><BR/>So knowing how bad I feel about something that I had no control over, I definitely know that I don't want to be a parent.<BR/><BR/>Hats off to those who choose to responsibly be fruitful, but it's just not for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20538189.post-1157044516457451432006-08-31T13:15:00.000-04:002006-08-31T13:15:00.000-04:00I love you for this post! Thank you for being supp...I love you for this post! Thank you for being supportive of women who are mature enough and possess enough self-awareness to be childfree!<BR/><BR/>In general, as a childfree person (I like childfree better than childless because it doesn't imply we're "lacking" something)I get the most harsh criticism from MOTHERS. <BR/><BR/>The fact that someone isn't choosing the life they've chosen, makes some of them angry and very bitter. I've been called "selfish" more times than I can name. <BR/><BR/>You tell me...what's more selfish...having a child for the following reasons: you want a little clone of yourself to show off, you want someone around to take care of you when you get old, you're lonely, you want "unconditional love" from someone, you're needy and require someone to be dependent on you OR making the choice to NOT have kids because you don't feel you're cut out for parenthood? Sorry but a lot of the reasons people have kids are <B>selfish reasons</B>. Fuck them for questioning my choice and calling ME selfish.<BR/><BR/>But you know what? I've found that many of these angry bitter mothers who bash my choices are miserable in the parenthood game. And you know what they say "Misery loves company". They’ve sacrificed a lot, they’ve been in countless unhappy parenting situations with no end in sight, they spend tons of money on kids who are probably not the least bit gracious or thankful, their lives change dramatically, they lose a great deal of their freedom, and they can never be a singular person whose needs come first ever again... and they feel as if no one should be able to evade the hell they’ve been through. They are truly appalled that I am choosing not to experience some of the things they’ve been forced to endure by being parents. It's infuriating. I just wanna say to them "You made your choice, no one is questioning you so please have the same respect for me".<BR/><BR/>Sorry for hijacking the comments. LMAO...I had to get this out.Mahogany Misfithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18221007561742437451noreply@blogger.com