Ever Satisfied?

In my fascination with all things stupid; cause folk never cease to amaze me, I was immediately drawn to a message thread that said, "She's too loud." I read the thread with amused curiousity because men are in fact more fickle than women though they'd be reluctant to admit it.

Scenario, you have a woman who's too loud in bed, but if she's too loud, it's a message board worthy issue; and it she wasn't loud, your ego would suffer quite a bruising. Make up your mind fella(s)! But how loud is too loud? Is she moaning and screaming Mariah Carey decibels during the act that makes her sound like a sex kitten or does she moan to replicate a porn star? Hmm? Maybe she sounds like you're in the process of killing her with it? I think you bragged about "killing her with it" because you're so good and she's taken to humoring you. (LMAO)

So, what are you gonna do fella? Are you gonna tell chick she's too loud or are you gonna be creative like you should be and find ways for her to use her mouth more constructively? My suggestion is that you speak to her about it. Now, I know tact is probably not your strong suit considering you chose a message board to vent, but bringing it up casually or playfully like, "yo, my neighbhor almost called the cops on us cause it was kinda loud the other night. He thought for sure I was tryna kill you." Hopefully, chick has a sense of humor and will laugh and you can say, "maybe we need to tone it done a little ya know?!" Or hell, you can flip it and get loud on her during the act and start sounding like one of those screw-faced (no pun intended) , barbarian grunting male porn stars and see how that grabs her. Chances are she'll feel like you've lost your natural mind and will call you on your sudden raise in decibels. If that occurs, then you've got the catalyst to bring up her "loudness".

I wish you well fella(s), but as the proverbial saying goes..."careful what you wish for..." I say, if you can't take the screaming, use ear plugs...lol...just kidding. For real though, Just talk to her otherwise you'll be rushing to get sex over with and then you'll be on the message board for a whole new reason...SHE posted a thread that you lost your stamina...GASP!!!

Steps away from the pc singing..."I don't want no minute man...." (Missy Elliot)

Stay or go?

I was having one of my adult ADD moments (no, I don't really have it, but it's fun to say...lol) and couldn't decide what I wanted to talk about. Then I decided that I would write something funny and kind of all the wall until I read a thread written by a man who's struggling with staying with his wife or divorcing her. It was a very long thread, but I read it in entirety and was so completely moved that I decided I needed to write about him.

Naturally, his presentation of the story was one-sided...his! He admitted that it was only his version, but his plea for help was so moving that I couldn't help but believe what he was saying. Apparently he and his wife are Born Again Christians and have been married for over a year; however, the marriage is and has been grossly deteriorating. He states that his wife becomes both physically and verbally abusive during arguments and refuses to accept responsibility for her actions. To cut a long story short, he's gone the rounds with her, has tried counseling, talking to her (when she appears rational), but nothing is working and nothing seems to change. She has (according to his story), berated him to her family and friends and they are currently separted. In spite of the bullshit and drama, he wants to work things out 1) because as a Christian he doesn't believe in divorce and 2) he still loves her. His question was what should he do? Oh hell, he done opened up a can now...

Personally, I say get rid of the psycho bitch before he ends up the passenger in an ambulance. I'm sorry no diss to Christians or the Bible, but let's be for real here...the bitch (forgive the slander) is effin you up during arguments, has wrecked the house and furniture, cut up your clothes, received nothing constructive from counseling, and you want to stay because you're a Christian? Hell would truly freeze over if I were in that situation cause this chic would be so gone! Ain't now way on earth am I staying with someone who displays that kind of behavior. I ain't tryna stay with someone who could have me wake up dead. Sheot! Someone would have to hold me hostage in order for me to stay with that level of abuse. I'd have left her ass for half of what he's endured/enduring.

I know he wants to uphold his vows, but where does it say in the vows that one should withstand abuse and a violent environment? I've been married, and thevows said, "...in sickness and in health...", but I know they didn't mean that level of sickness; cause trust me that woman is sick. The irony of the situation is that she NEEDS Jesus; even though she allegedly has him in her life. Whoa! I think people are taking the Bible and being a Christian a little too far these days and are putting themselves in harms way be it emotionally, mentally, physically, and/or financially. I just wish people would stop hiding behind religion and realize that they are capable of recognizing right from wrong behavior and at some point common sense should prevail...though it appears it's really not that common.

While I feel bad for dude and his situation, he needs to man up and walk away from a destructive woman and marriage.

Nuff said, Amen!

What happened to making love?

I listen to R&B music with less passion than I used to. Gone are the days when the music spoke if sensuality and making love. Nowadays, people are "getting their freak on", "bumpin-n-grindin", "hittin it", "f*ckin", and doing anything but making love. Granted, we don't make love everytime we're with that significant person, but dammit, can't we at least be tasteful in our approach to it?

I remember when I used to listen to an R&B song and heard lyrics that said, "I wanna make love to you", and thought that was so sexy and a turn on. Now all I hear in most songs is, "I wanna freak you" or "I wanna hit you off". How unromantic is that? Call me a prude if you want to, but sheot, if you're trying to test your landscaping skills in my garden, you better come with some better lyrics and game than "...girl you remind me of my Jeep, I wanna ride you..." or some other awful shit.

Have those who write lyrics lost their minds? Is this what intimacy and romance has come down to? Hell, is that music in general has come down to? Neo-Soul artists and real music afficionados are the a few of the only ones who can still appreciate music for it's whole content.

Leela James has a song called "Music" in which she questions what has happened to real music? I wholeheartedly agree with her. Link to her lyrics illustrates what I'm trying to convey.

http://www.anysonglyrics.com/lyrics/l/Leela-James/Music-Lyrics.htm

I find it pretty sad and disheartening that it's hard to find R&B songs with lyrics that aren't tainting what it means to love, make love, and have intimacy and sensuality in your love life.

Off to listen to Maxwell, at least he knows how to lyrically make love to me.

News Flash

I've decided to add another feature to my blog. As most of you know, I write short stories and poems and have decided to add a link (Shades of Blu) which is on the right margin, so you can read them. I'm currently posting a story called "Rendezvous". I'll add a new page daily until it's complete, then I'll post a new story or poem depending on my mood is. Please provide feedback as to this new feature and as always, please leave comments on either blog. It's a great tool for me to gauge how I'm reaching my audience. Thanks for your support.