and the readers say what?

Your current interest decides that things aren't working out because you decide not to rearrange your previously made plans because s/he has decided at the last moment that they're going to visit. You're gobsmacked momentarily at their lack of consideration, insensitivity, and unforgiving attitude because you're sticking to your guns and not allowing yourself to be manipulated and guilted.

You do the mature thing and try to reason with him/her and have them understand that it's not that you don't want to see them, but they've not considered that you in fact have a life that does not solely revolve around them. Shortly thereafter, they refuse to accept your calls and you say, the hell with it and go on with your night.

The next day, you receive no calls and you make no calls deciding that you're not going to give in to the selfish and errant whim of his/her attitude. Now, I need to add that this isn't the first time s/he has treated you like this. In the past, plans were made and not honored, you've been treated as the option not the priority, and you've accepted what minimal time they gave you instead of none at all. Your feelings were minimally considered throughout the treatment you were given and yet you decided; though skeptically taht things might change.

Another day passes and contact is made. S/he is still blaming you for the inicident and you're like "seriously?" You engage counsel of a trusted friend who might be able to provide some insight you can use to resolve the tension. You become the bigger person and try to resolve the situation and move on. You're met with a demeaning and dismissive attitude and you're now acutely aware that s/he's playing the victim. The call is ended on them saying they'll call you back and you go on with your day; business as usual. The next day, you receive a call from them asking why they haven't heard from you and you're like "WTF?", but don't really say it out loud. You try to engage in conversation and find it's yeilding nothing good and you find a way to opt out.

Yet another day passes, and s/he calls you essentially blaming you for all the bullcrap that's going on in his/her life and how they're the victim of their own lack of direction, effectiveness, and action, but of course they never admit that. Instead that try to berate and demean you into submission. Knowing that they're full of crap and trying their damndest to defer, you stand your ground and speak your mind in no uncertain terms. When s/he realizes that they don't have you where they want to, they end the call. You laugh and go on with your evening.

Because you're the bigger person, you call the next day and say, "you calm now?" They say, "I'm always calm" and you say, "okay, then cool and pretty much end the conversation before it can go anywhere. A day passes and no contact is made from either party. Then today rolls around and they call you being all "normal". You chuckle to yourself and engage the conversation (such that it is) and put no real energy into him/her.

Now readers, if this had happened to you, what would you do? I'm curious to see how people respond to negative behaviour and treatment in a day and age when we should be so beyond the sophmoric attitudes that so-called adults are still displaying.

As for me, I'm simply amused and no longer really affected.

Cast your vote...

Love!

Awed, humbled, and thankful

Words are something I'm usually not at odds with, but I truly am on the verge of being speechless in regard to our President-elect Barack Obama. Not only am I happy to have been a part of this electoral process, but having lil lady txt me her vote because she couldn't do it herself, showed me that she's actively participating in what will be her future.

I think about my Godchildren and how their future has more promise than ever before and when they're told that they can be anything they put their hearts and minds to, I know it's not said with a bitter pill on my tongue.

I'm not simply awed and humbled by Barack Obama, but by his wife, Michelle. Her unwavering poise, grace, support, and love for her husband eminated each and every time she was interviewed or gave speech. She truly is That Woman! Their children are beautiful and I'm sure grounded and focused on being more than historical pawns; though they're still a bit young to fully understand and appreciate what's happening. I feel confident saying that their parents will continue to center themselves on them and provide the foundation of family for them; one in which I pray we will strive to aspire to.

I received this picture and tears came to my eyes as I saw the warmth and love radiate amongst them.

God bless this family, their future, and all the lives they've touched and will touch.

Love!

still alive

Hiya folks! Sorry I've been incognegro, but they're working me like a field negro on a hot summer's day. I'm hanging in there though.

My breast cancer walk is this Sunday and I was supposed to do a post about it to see if anyone wanted to donate. Please let me know as it's not too late to made a donation.

I hope to slow down enough to catch up on the blog happs and catch you up with some of the things occurring in the land of "iS iT jUsT mE?"

Love!

me, being honest

Thanks to this mo-freaker Terry i got tasked to do a blog tell all and i really don't wanna, but cause this mo-freaker is a good friend and mentor, i figured it's the least i can do. It's the Honest Weblog. I don't have the icon, but who needs the icon, when you're business is on blast anyway?!

Here's how it goes, or so they say it goes...

The rules that accompany it are as follows:

# When you receive the prize you must write a post showing it, together with the name of who has given it to you, and link them back.

# Choose a minimum of 7 blogs (or more) that you find brilliant in their content or design.

# Show their names and links and leave them a comment informing they were prized with ‘Honest Weblog’.

# Show a picture of those who awarded you and those you give the prize (optional).

# List [if you can and or dare] at least ten honest things about yourself.

# And then, pass it on.

Aiight, here's to me putting myself (actually it's Terry's fault) on Front Street...

1...I have an uncanny sexual stamina

2...I stole from a collection plate as a child

3...I've wished someone dead, and meant it with no regret,

4...When I was in Basic Training I began a relationship with a Drill Sergeant that lasted through Military Occupational School (MOS) right through my returning home 6 months later where it continued. Anyone who knows anything about the military; knows this is illegal by military court (UCMJ).

5...I've been propositioned for partner swapping...I turned it down. (eww)

6...I love too hard for my own good.

7...There's only been one man that I've given my entire self to; heart, soul, love...he wasn't my ex-husband

8...Although I'm a good mom, aunt, and godmother; kids where never an option i considered.

9...Even though I probably still have it like that; there is NOT ONE ex that I'd want to sleep with again.

10...I truly hate memes and posts such as these and I'm admitting that publically. No offense to those who've tagged me.

Tagging...
Jus.b.fli
Miz
Mr. Slish
Don
Believer
karrie.b
Hawa

Now get ta tellin!

Love!