25 September 2007

Inner Peace

I thought I'd share some of the things I've learned and have been learning while not blogging....

How do you know when you have gained inner peace in your life?

  • You begin to draw emotional boundaries which negative/toxic people cannot cross.
  • You stop giving your power, time, money, body and sanity away to people and conditions that can steal your joy and your purpose.
  • You begin to simplify your life.
  • You begin to value quiet time.
  • You don't feel insecure if you are alone.
  • You begin to trust yourself more.
  • You begin to trust God more.
  • Your choices in food, fun, family and friends changes for the better.
  • You sleep better because you let go of worry.
  • You spend time with the people and activities that bring out your best.
  • You don't spend a lot of energy trying to fix or rescue other people.
  • You change what you can and what cannot be changed, "it is what it is."
  • You have gratitude for the things God has brought you through and not dwell on the things He didn't do.
  • Life lessons learned help you to bounce back with more resiliency after setbacks, disappointments or loss.
  • You focus less on the mess and stress and have more gratitude for your blessings and success.
  • You are liberated from shame, anger, fear and guilt.

26 comments:

missedmanners said...

But what if you like the way shame and guilt make you feel?

Sometimes I feel like if it weren't for shame, I'd be in jail already.

j.a.c. said...

i don't know how i got this, but by reading this post, i realized that i try too hard to be perfect. i'm so hard on myself when i realize that i don't trust God enough or when i feel that my peace is gone. i beat myself up with ideas that tell me that i'm not doing enough of this or enough of that, and i seriously need to chill or i'm going to drive myself crazy. but as is the answer to all questions, it's about balance.

good post.

dc_speaks said...

inner peace? the journey take me down a road that is an every changing emotional roller coaster ride.

i loved this post and what it represents.

thanks for sharing. catch you laters, ma'am.

Ananda said...

wow. i am gonna send some sistaloves and brothaloves to your blog. this is wonderful. gracias chica.... peace, ananda

Blu Jewel said...

missed - you are a bona fide nutcase.

j.a.c - i'm glad you were able to get something valuable from this post. and i hope you'll be able to make the positive changes you need to for yourself.

dc - yes, it's an ever changing roller coaster but as long as you hang on, you can achieve what you seek

amanda - thanks for the stop by and for wanting to share my blog with others.

BZ said...

I know that's right!!! *insert meditation "hummmmmm" here* Glad to see that you are in a good place, luv.

*HUGGS*

Ali's Zay said...

Awesome notes. My favorite:
"You begin to simplify your life."

Peace and Love,

Ali's Zay

chele said...

Nice. Very nice. This is what I'm looking for ... peace.

Rosemarie said...

Like Hammer sang, "You can't touch this!" You're on fire and filled with purpose.

Brotha Buck said...

This is a thing I wish I could pass along to my daughter.

Wendy said...

I'm striving for it Blu. Lord knows I am. Glad you found your corner. Stay blessed!

nikki said...

that first one is the most powerful one on the list as far as i'm concerned cuz it's teaching folk how to treat you and it's protecting your spirit. i ain't mad at it.

Ms. Confessions said...

Thank you for sharing.
It's amazing how you can forget things that are so simple.

Sojourner G said...

Snuck in on me ma. Beautiful lessons.

lyre said...

Ok now I see what happens when inner peace is present. my question is, how do we get there? what is the process?

dc_speaks said...

peekin in to say hi and check in on ya.

YAZMAR said...

HAY BLU...
like this girl....never dissapoint

Ingrid said...

I love this post! It spoke so many truths!

By the by I read your interview over @ misc. matters and i loved it!

We read each other often (bloggers in general) and while we may never get in depth -- getting to know the writer behind the words make the words that much more power filled. Big ups to you!

dc_speaks said...

yo. sayin hi!

T.C. said...

life lessons continue to come to me as well...i can relate to this in many ways...i think that i try to hard sometimes, bu the reality is i can only be me...and you are so right being alone and the quite time and just learning and loving yourself is always a good thing

Hawa said...

Hey, Blu! First I was away from the blogosphere, then you were away... and hopefully I can get back to regular reading.

Thanks for the great post.

Seven said...

I needed that

Lyrically speaking said...

Stopping by to say hello, I can't believe I miss this post but glad to have found it like a hidden treasure. Happy Friday, hope all is well and that you enjoy a restful weekend.

CapCity said...

Why is everyBODY in my HEAD tonight? I'm going thru blogs making my last rounds for a minute cuz i gotta put myself on lock;-). I've been promising myself to come check u out more and Lo & Behold your post was "waiting" for me! Thanx! I needed this to confirm my mission.

Oh, if you're close to nyc - it would be cool to meet u next Friday! Check out my Intimate Side for more details if you're interested.

dc_speaks said...

hey!

MysTery said...

Great post!!