26 March 2007

Shameless plug

Okay, so those of you who know I have two blogs (The Saphyre Lounge) know that I'm long overdue for a posting over there. Well, I'm happy to announce that I'd dusted off the cobwebs in the lounge and posted something.

Special Request

A friend of mine provides time, money, and resources to the
www.miracleranchorphanage.org, which has become a victim of heinous acts of child molestation and abuse. It is my request that each of you visit this site for information; and if you can do nothing else, please pray for the children, those that provide support, and that justice be served in their favor.

I know this would mean a lot to my friend and relieve him of some of the stress he's currently feeling.


24 March 2007


I came up with this after I received some disappointing news and didn't know how to handle it. I prayed immediately as I supressed the tears welling in my eyes. Later on after pain from supression forced it's way into my chest, I went to a quiet place and just let the tears flow. The following in the outcome of those tears...

"Tears are not signs of weakness, but instead signs of strength because it takes an incredibly strong person to show their weakness or vulnerability." -- Blu Jewel (c) 2007

21 March 2007

just stuff

...for knowing God

...for my faith and for knowing the power of prayer and divinity

...for having a voice and using it

...for the yesterday's post as i needed to get it off my chest

...for knowing that i'm a good friend

...for being the kind of parent that mine weren't

...for my family and real friends

...for my blog family

...for the recent bogs that were filled with positive insight and inspiration

...for the vacation i'm gonna take with lil lady

...for the new "man" in my life...he's a lil cutie pie and auntie jewel is gonna spoil him

...you THINK the world revolves around you; it doesn't and karma is a mutha effa

...you've been friends with someone for a long time; doesn't mean it's a healthy relationship

...you might not get caught, but cheating still aint right

...you're in a bad mood that you need to take it out on others

...it hasn't manifested itself yet; but love, joy, peace, and happiness is waiting for you

...for showing me your true colors

...for being the type of person i'm glad i never became

...for being stupid enough to reveal things that will come back to bite you in the ass later

...for your wide shut eyes cause your dumb ass can't see the forest for the trees

...for affording me the opportunity to run tell dat

...without the truth, words are all lies

...telling you what i knew you might not want to hear was love speaking

...sugar coating shit and calling it candy would be bittersweet

...standing up for myself and those i love

...talking lil lady and my "son" about sex, STDs, and relationships will help; not hurt them

...i look kinda cute today

...listening to music is like food for my soul

...live life out loud

...never doubt your integrity or character because someone has made you act in a manner you typically don't. sometimes you gotta get dirty in order to cleanse yourself thoroughly

...say something nice to yourself daily

...feelings aren't right or wrong; they just are

...for today; just be!

20 March 2007

Ruffling Feathers

Those who know me; know I’m not one for conflict and drama. It is a monumental peeve of mine and no matter how you slice it; I’d rather not deal. However, there are occasions when I know I have to face the fire or voice my distain for a situation. Yesterday was one of those occasions.

After realizing that a situation I knew much about came to a head, I couldn’t help but voice my thoughts about it, though the other parties weren’t really aware of the extent of my awareness. I’m one for laying low in the cut and I tend not to reveal things I may have overheard as I feel it’s none of my business. This kind of gives me a voyeuristic observation of things and oft times when I do have to speak up; I’m able to provide an insight that may have been overlooked.

The case in question has had me pissed off for some time as the offender has the misguided impression that the world revolves around her and that gives her the right to lie; manipulate; treat people as her personal toilet paper; and other such offenses. Being that I’m a grown ass woman with little time for that kind of drama, I tend not be bothered with her simple ass. However, there are others very close to me who are subjected to her delusions of grandeur. From the little I’ve spoke on the situation, my opinion is that I don’t want to see good people get fucked over by her or anyone like her. I’m a firm believer in victims becoming survivors and those, this brat is offending don’t deserve one iota of the treatment they’re getting.

Now, you may be wondering where I fit into this fucked up equation, so I’ll tell you. Well, chick decided to put my name in her mouth and inquire about things that are of no consequence to her. WRONG MOVE! In addition, she’s offended me a time or few and I’ve for the most part let it slide; however, I haven’t forgotten and she’s been checked for her lack of decorum and/or manners. Well, back to the point. In her verbal rampage, she seemed to overlook the fact that I’ve (on more than one occasion) overheard her running her mouth; a fact that I’ve now made public seeing as she decided to put my name in her mouth. All bets are off now and she best to pray that I’m not somehow in a position to blow her spot up. It’s a bad move to mistake what I don’t say for ignorance; trust and believe the Jewel is far from that. Being feline natured has afforded me the opportunity to lay low, observe, and then attack if/when provoked. That time has come. In addition, it’s warranted because the parties she’s offended are near and dear to me as I’ve said and like the mother I am; I protect mine.

So, if you hear of some strange fall out in NJ or some major change in atmospheric pressure, it could be that chick has been atomized by the many who want to take down the one.


15 March 2007


Most of us are familiar with the acronym S.O.S, but many do not realize there are a few meanings behind it. Here is my break down...Stuck on Stupid, Sink or Swim, Save our Souls, Shit or Shutup.

Now, that being said these are some of the S.O.S's that I feel require some attention.
  1. listening to songs that are damaging to your sex drive while at work
  2. listening to songs on repeat for like 15 mins...no, not the aforementioned ones...lol!
  3. having a voice and not using it; there is no resolution without dialog
  4. putting yourself in the line of fire and then being mad about it
  5. allowing others to define who you are
  6. knowing something/one is bad for you and doing it anyway
  7. not seeing the forest for the trees
  8. intereaction without compromise
  9. not standing up for yourself especially when you know you're right
  10. watching the world go by and not participating
  11. wasting time complaining about what you don't have instead of appreciating what you do
  12. blocking blessings
  13. never taking chances or making changes
  14. putting stipulations on yourself or others
  15. opening doors before closing others
  16. turning your pain, problems, and such inward instead of upward
  17. not saying "i love you"
  18. telling someone what they want to hear instead of what they NEED to hear
  19. not being able to accept fault
  20. not treating yourself to something nice even when you can barely afford to
  21. saying, "thank you Jesus/God" and not really expressing it effectively
  22. realizing good people can do bad things
  23. sometimes good people aren't good together
  24. because you're a size 5 doesn't mean everything looks good on you
  25. grown ass men in thug wear is NOT attractive
  26. random acts of kindness shouldn't be regarded as foolish
  27. human life should not be discounted
  28. love is not an isolated entity, share it with EVERYONE
  29. this is NOT a dress rehersal people
  30. God is good always, in ALL ways.

08 March 2007

Top Ten

Okay, so we all have moments of despair, anger, frustration, and that's all well and good, but there is more to life than negative emotions. Don't get me wrong, each of them serve their purpose, but they weren't intended to be all day; everyday ones. Today's reading says, "Let go and let God", so when I saw these (among others) listed in another blog I knew I had to "steal" it.

All too often, we allow ourselves to be weighed down with things and sometimes people that don't realy warrant the amount of time being invested. If we're honest with ourselves about the issue/person, we'll realize that it's best to simply let go and move on in addition to letting go and letting God.

We need to invest and reinvest in our most wealthiest stock...OURSELVES! It doesn't mean we're being selfish or self-serving, but as it's said, we can't help others until we help ourselves and God will take care of us if we open up to receive His blessings.

So, without further adieu, here's some of the list I "stole"

1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.
2. Most people will be about as happy, as they DECIDE to be.
3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.
4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.
5. You will never "have it all together."
6. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
7. We often fear the thing we want the most.
8. Success is getting up one more time
9. When things go wrong.....don't go with them.
10. Your worst days are never so bad that you are beyond the reach of God's grace... and your best days are never so good that you are beyond the need of God's grace.

06 March 2007

what's it to ya???

Ever noticed how folk stay in other folks business? WTF? I mean, let’s be real here, why do you care what I’m doing or with whom I’m doing it? Does it matter what car I drive, what town I live in or who my friends are? Does my sexuality, religion, or whatever make or break your impression of me? The answer; a resounding “NO!”.

I have a friend with whom I have lunch with almost weekly. Recently I was asked if he was my boyfriend. I laughed at the assumption and humored the person by responding. “No, he’s not, we’re good friends.”

“Oh!” She responded as if they expected a different answer.

Now, being the antagonist I can be at times, I decided to take things further. “What gave you the impression he was my boyfriend?”

“Because I see you here (the restaurant) a lot together.” She replied.

“Oh, so because two people are seen together a lot it means they’re a couple?”

She was stumped for a few, so I decided to keep pushing.

“Let me take this one step further. If you saw me with a girl more often than not, would you assume she was my girlfriend of an intimate nature?”

“No,” she said in horror. “Of course not. It’s just that you’re an attractive woman, he’s a good looking guy and I see you together a lot, so I ass…”

“And that’s where you should not assume,” I cut her off. “I’m single and very much okay with that.”

“I know, but it’s just that…”

I cut her off again. “Listen, just because we’re attractive doesn’t make us compatible and looks certainly aren’t indicative of a person’s personality of which carries; or at least should carry a lot of weight.” I paused to gather my thoughts as not to completely demean this narrow-minded and nosey woman. “With all do respect, what I do and with whom is none of yours or anyone else's business. And for the record, just because I’m considered attractive on the outside, doesn’t mean I am on the inside. I could be a maniacal bitch who'd get dropped faster than black man in the ER with no insurance.”

By now, I think my point was made that she needed to mind her own damn business.

Folk, I’ll admit we all get into other people’s business, but be careful cause when it comes back to you it can be ugly. Check yourself because if you don’t want people asking you your business, don’t ask them theirs. Yes, things are gonna be said or done, but pick and choose your battles when dealing with nosey folk cause they’re trouble whether you admit something or not.

A smart-mouthed chic like me’s got something fo ya, so if you wanna know something ask as your own risk.

05 March 2007

i miss you all!

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Things are pretty hectic for me right now, but I'm gonna be back soon.

Here's a few random things for you though...

i snagged a pair of Enzo's that were originally $199 for $42 on sat...i was stoked!

i sure miss some of those days when i could slack for a couple hours on the plantation

praying while dead tired is a crazy combo. i feel asleep while in prayer; caught myself; started again, and then fell back to sleep.

i wanted to ask someone this recently...

my forearms ache from carrying those heavy ass bags while at the mall on sat...it was worth it though for all the money i saved...yay!

i'm reading blogs; just not always commenting...i'll try to correct that

being a MILF is rough!

i still hate people

i've considered being a card carrying member of the KKK

without God, i'd be a complete and total mess

sexual fantasies are my way of having safe sex

i need a )*%#(^%#(* vacation in the worst way

i call the spa to finally make my appointment and they )*%#)%*#) booked...*AAARRGGHH*

i saw Number 23 the other night and didn't really like it

kids these days have no effin manners and i want to slap them when they're being disrespecful

my twin niece and nephew are so damn cute

i looked good as hell today...the hip confidence was in full effect!!

The Bible is the greatest book ever written

this is how i'm living

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stay well and be blessed y'all...Blu Jewel still has mad love for you. *muah*