If you're someone who's recently accomplished something good, please don't hate on those who haven't quite achieved that same level of success.
There is someone I know and can't stand who is this very person. Because she recently lost some weight, she feels she has cause to talk about those who haven't. In so many ways Chick thinks she's better than other people and it's horrible to listen to or watch. My dislike for her in monumental because she's come to my home acting like her ish don't stink and I'm not the one. Hell no! Because she's friends with someone I'm friends with is why up until recently I kept my thoughts to myself, but since not being able to hold my thoughts/feelings in; all bets are off.
Fortunately, I'm not the only one who doesn't like this chick and who shares the same feelings toward her and my friend has been enlightened to the ignant ways of Chick. Moreover, she was able to witness the trite actions with her own eyes and will provide the humbling lesson Chick needs to learn.
It's a near year and a new way of living for me and so many people, so let's be mindful of how we treat others. There is and will always be someone better than us in some way, just as we'll be better than others in some way; however, it doesn't give us the right to treat others poorly.
Love!
20 January 2008
18 January 2008
Current Likes/Dislikes
Likes...
1. The thought that one day my king will come in search of his missing rib
2. I have come that much closer to being whole
3. I have someone in my corner that has truly helped me concretely see my future
4. I can and do speak freely to my mother
5. I talk back to my father and take pride in it
6. Taking chances and leaving my comfort zone
7. That I’m going to lose 10lbs
8. Positive discussion over controversial issues
9. Succession in my personal goals WILL occur this year
10. Life is beautiful
Dislikes…
1. People unwilling to embrace or make effectual change
2. Narrow mindedness
3. Those who put down others to make themselves look good
4. The demoralization of our society
5. Haters and gold-diggers
6. People who refuse to stand for something
7. Self-deprecation
8. People saying one thing and doing another
9. Greed/corruption
10. The current state of black music
1. The thought that one day my king will come in search of his missing rib
2. I have come that much closer to being whole
3. I have someone in my corner that has truly helped me concretely see my future
4. I can and do speak freely to my mother
5. I talk back to my father and take pride in it
6. Taking chances and leaving my comfort zone
7. That I’m going to lose 10lbs
8. Positive discussion over controversial issues
9. Succession in my personal goals WILL occur this year
10. Life is beautiful
Dislikes…
1. People unwilling to embrace or make effectual change
2. Narrow mindedness
3. Those who put down others to make themselves look good
4. The demoralization of our society
5. Haters and gold-diggers
6. People who refuse to stand for something
7. Self-deprecation
8. People saying one thing and doing another
9. Greed/corruption
10. The current state of black music
17 January 2008
Change is good
"Change brings opportunities when people have been planning for it, are ready for it, and have just the thing in mind to do when the new state comes into being." Rosabeth Moss Kanter
We all go through things in life where we sometimes wonder what, when, how, to change ourselves or something in our lives. Some say one can't change and things don't change while others say the opposite. For me, I know change can be and is good as I've gone through quite a transformation of sorts over the past couple years. I've gone through many more changes prior to the aformentioned years, but the past two have been extremely significant for me.
I've had to reconcile with many issues and some people in order to make my changes and I had to lay some firm plans, prepare myself, and then execute them with conviction and commitment. I was and continue to be determined to have it all become whole and into fruition. So far; so good.
I recently had a conversation with someone I've known since I was 16. He's 3 years older than me in years, but in many ways always seemed to be lacking in wisdom for the age difference. He'd always praised me for my mental acuities ands prowess and has always felt he's learned a lot from me. He's a smart guy, but one who'd always used his physical attributes to supersede his mental. He's one of those people who is afraid of his own success and constantly did things to sabotage himself, his abilities, and his future. I would always say, "if you can't dazzle them with your brilliance, baffle them with bullshit." I heard the quote somewhere and it has always reminded me of him. Again, it was based on the fact that he used the wrong things to get what he wanted instead of his mind. It was a shame that a smart AND attractive man acted more like a bimbo; I call them "himbos" instead of manning up and doing things the right way. He preferred instant and/or temporary gratification than working for something tangible. It's a deficit that he's carried for damn near all the years I've known him (24 to be exact).
Of late he's expressed that he wants to change and put his fears and such behind him. I gave it to him straight; no chaser and told him he needs to let his balls drop and man up to the task. He has to stop allowing his situations to get the best of him and make excuses for his lack of fortitude. I refused to sugar coat shit and call it candy because that's what people have done to him in all the years I've known him. I told him he has to set the foundation in order to execute effectual change. He has a son and I told him he needs to set the stage for how his son will be in this world and he can't adequately do it if he's still in flux with his life. In addition, I told him that while opening the door to past issues is hard and painful, it's often the only way to close the door for good and have a future that's not dictated by the past.
It was kind of sad to have to tell a grown man how to be a man, but it was necessary. In order to make change, you have to be first honest with yourself and have those who surround you be honest. Furthermore, a strong support system is also essential for the change to exacted in it's proper fashion. When I read the opening quote, I was reminded of the conversation we had and was even more sure that what I had told him was true.
In life, we have to own up to who we are and what we want. If we're determined to make change, we have to do exactly as the quote states. As I execute my change for wholeness, I refer to this quote as a reminder to not quit and to press on. I hope it helps those of you on a similar quest.
Love!
We all go through things in life where we sometimes wonder what, when, how, to change ourselves or something in our lives. Some say one can't change and things don't change while others say the opposite. For me, I know change can be and is good as I've gone through quite a transformation of sorts over the past couple years. I've gone through many more changes prior to the aformentioned years, but the past two have been extremely significant for me.
I've had to reconcile with many issues and some people in order to make my changes and I had to lay some firm plans, prepare myself, and then execute them with conviction and commitment. I was and continue to be determined to have it all become whole and into fruition. So far; so good.
I recently had a conversation with someone I've known since I was 16. He's 3 years older than me in years, but in many ways always seemed to be lacking in wisdom for the age difference. He'd always praised me for my mental acuities ands prowess and has always felt he's learned a lot from me. He's a smart guy, but one who'd always used his physical attributes to supersede his mental. He's one of those people who is afraid of his own success and constantly did things to sabotage himself, his abilities, and his future. I would always say, "if you can't dazzle them with your brilliance, baffle them with bullshit." I heard the quote somewhere and it has always reminded me of him. Again, it was based on the fact that he used the wrong things to get what he wanted instead of his mind. It was a shame that a smart AND attractive man acted more like a bimbo; I call them "himbos" instead of manning up and doing things the right way. He preferred instant and/or temporary gratification than working for something tangible. It's a deficit that he's carried for damn near all the years I've known him (24 to be exact).
Of late he's expressed that he wants to change and put his fears and such behind him. I gave it to him straight; no chaser and told him he needs to let his balls drop and man up to the task. He has to stop allowing his situations to get the best of him and make excuses for his lack of fortitude. I refused to sugar coat shit and call it candy because that's what people have done to him in all the years I've known him. I told him he has to set the foundation in order to execute effectual change. He has a son and I told him he needs to set the stage for how his son will be in this world and he can't adequately do it if he's still in flux with his life. In addition, I told him that while opening the door to past issues is hard and painful, it's often the only way to close the door for good and have a future that's not dictated by the past.
It was kind of sad to have to tell a grown man how to be a man, but it was necessary. In order to make change, you have to be first honest with yourself and have those who surround you be honest. Furthermore, a strong support system is also essential for the change to exacted in it's proper fashion. When I read the opening quote, I was reminded of the conversation we had and was even more sure that what I had told him was true.
In life, we have to own up to who we are and what we want. If we're determined to make change, we have to do exactly as the quote states. As I execute my change for wholeness, I refer to this quote as a reminder to not quit and to press on. I hope it helps those of you on a similar quest.
Love!
15 January 2008
God vs God
My apologies for not posting sooner. Had some very important things to take care of. Well, I'm back and am rather anxious about this entry; here goes.
In my last post, DBA Lehane said..."That God guy seems to take all the credit and takes none of the flak if you ask me."
Naturally, that got me to thinking and I don't think that God can take the flak for what is currently going on in the world. We were given a choice, which stems from Adam and Eve and from the inception, we chose to go against God and against good. Though there are many who will argue with Biblical accounts of humanity, I do not (for the most part} and I believe that we as people have created the mess we live in. From what I know and have read, people have chosen the desires of physical pleasure, instant gratification, and anything that yields rewards without regard for others.
Christ lived amongst us and faced the same temptations and decision making issues as those around Him and He chose to always err on the side of good and live with clarity of his decision. He accepted the fallout and alienation that came with his decisions, which afforded him the opportunity to never have to second guess Himself. He promoted goodness and good living and those who chose against that mindset lived their suffering and adverse effects of the choice they made, so why should God take the flak for something He didn't do and didn't promote. Yes, there must be balance and there is no good without the bad, but ultimately we are still in charge of the choices we make. I have read the Bible and some other religious doctrines and no where does it say that the Higher Power promoted negative behavior and activities. Acts of nature were used as tools to teach us that we need to be mindful of the world we live in and the decisions we make against others.
I feel like I'm all over the place with my thoughts (Codeine will do that to a person), but I'm sure you understand where I'm going. I think it's easy for us to doubt God's role and intention for us if we do not have faith in His direction and doctrine. His goodness, favor, and mercy is dispensed on us everyday. Sometimes we're given reminders that we need to live or get right by an act of nature, s health scare, or whatever He uses to get into our heads and hearts.
Let me ask you this, if you know you're a good person, you don't lie; cheat; steal, or do things that you'll have a hard time living with; should you be held responsible for the "flak" that is around you? While I understand why someone can and would question the role of God in the world and why He gets all the credit when there is so much negativity in the world, but He didn't cause it so no, He shouldn't take the flak.
This is a topic that can and will generate a lot of discussion as many of you are believers and practice Biblical habits. I welcome and encourage debate on this because as I said, I feel a little scatterbrained right now. My wholehearted opinion is that I AM A TRUE BELIEVER. I have experience His goodness, favor, and mercy in my life. I've lived through miraculous situations and know that without my faith in Him I would NOT be where I am. I reiterate that point because in spite of ugliness that has happened in my life or to me, the acts were not performed by God, but someone who did not know God or know how to make better decisions. I think it's easy for many to blame or want to blame God given His reputation for awesomeness, but if we're honest without prejudice of religion, we'll see that it's man not God who's at fault.
In my last post, DBA Lehane said..."That God guy seems to take all the credit and takes none of the flak if you ask me."
Naturally, that got me to thinking and I don't think that God can take the flak for what is currently going on in the world. We were given a choice, which stems from Adam and Eve and from the inception, we chose to go against God and against good. Though there are many who will argue with Biblical accounts of humanity, I do not (for the most part} and I believe that we as people have created the mess we live in. From what I know and have read, people have chosen the desires of physical pleasure, instant gratification, and anything that yields rewards without regard for others.
Christ lived amongst us and faced the same temptations and decision making issues as those around Him and He chose to always err on the side of good and live with clarity of his decision. He accepted the fallout and alienation that came with his decisions, which afforded him the opportunity to never have to second guess Himself. He promoted goodness and good living and those who chose against that mindset lived their suffering and adverse effects of the choice they made, so why should God take the flak for something He didn't do and didn't promote. Yes, there must be balance and there is no good without the bad, but ultimately we are still in charge of the choices we make. I have read the Bible and some other religious doctrines and no where does it say that the Higher Power promoted negative behavior and activities. Acts of nature were used as tools to teach us that we need to be mindful of the world we live in and the decisions we make against others.
I feel like I'm all over the place with my thoughts (Codeine will do that to a person), but I'm sure you understand where I'm going. I think it's easy for us to doubt God's role and intention for us if we do not have faith in His direction and doctrine. His goodness, favor, and mercy is dispensed on us everyday. Sometimes we're given reminders that we need to live or get right by an act of nature, s health scare, or whatever He uses to get into our heads and hearts.
Let me ask you this, if you know you're a good person, you don't lie; cheat; steal, or do things that you'll have a hard time living with; should you be held responsible for the "flak" that is around you? While I understand why someone can and would question the role of God in the world and why He gets all the credit when there is so much negativity in the world, but He didn't cause it so no, He shouldn't take the flak.
This is a topic that can and will generate a lot of discussion as many of you are believers and practice Biblical habits. I welcome and encourage debate on this because as I said, I feel a little scatterbrained right now. My wholehearted opinion is that I AM A TRUE BELIEVER. I have experience His goodness, favor, and mercy in my life. I've lived through miraculous situations and know that without my faith in Him I would NOT be where I am. I reiterate that point because in spite of ugliness that has happened in my life or to me, the acts were not performed by God, but someone who did not know God or know how to make better decisions. I think it's easy for many to blame or want to blame God given His reputation for awesomeness, but if we're honest without prejudice of religion, we'll see that it's man not God who's at fault.
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