09 March 2009

The truth will set you free

My bestie has been in a relationship since last summer and it seemed all good at first, but over time, I started to see some things that were pissing me off. I kept my mouth shut because I didn't want to rain on her parade. I dropped a hint or two here and there, but never really vocalized my thoughts because I pick and choose my battles wisely.

A month or so ago, I mentioned some things that had been on my mind and she seemed like she was listening, but I don't think she was really hearing me. I left it alone and went on business as usual. Just the other day, bestie was pissed off royal and I used it as a segway to voice the things that had been on my mind. Fortuantely for me, she was receptive to what was being said and took it all very well; better than I'd expected actually.

She's apparently stuck to her guns and the advice she was given and the relationship appears that it's going to come to an end. I'm happy that I spoke up and shared my views instead of sucking it up and watching her suffer and/or think no one gave a damn about what she was going through. Sometimes it takes the input or influence of those who care about us to help us see the forest for the trees. That's what friendship and love is all about.

Love to live; live to love!

8 comments:

Ms. Liryc said...

I am a true believer in telling your friends how you feel. though sometimes what you say will hurt them I figure it best to just come out and say it and let the chips fall where they may! Good job! You're her bestie for a reason!

Ruthibelle said...

But you DO notice that timing was important... you spoke up when she was ready to listen... seems to me, not a minute too soon.

Keith said...

Well I guess it depends on who you're talking to...The people I've chosen to give that kind of advice to have never listened until it was way too late. Glad your friend listened to you and took your advice.

Blu Jewel said...

@ms. Lyric - Agreed, that one should tell their friends the truth no matter what, but sometimes it's not worth the additional trauma until you're sure you can say what you need to without causing further damage.

@Ruthibelle - So right, I got really lucky on the timing.

@Keith - It's very hard to voice your opinion on matters of the heart, but sometimes you have to take your chances when the door is open.

love to live; live to love!

chele said...

I'm glad she was receptive. I've been in those situations and it almost always results in disaster, broken friendships, etc.

Wendy said...

A sure sign of a true friend is knowing when to say when. She is lucky to have you BLU!!!

Believer said...

You can give advice and try to help a sister out, but until they're ready to make the moves "stuck" maybe their only answer. However, in this case intervention was right on time.

MysTery said...

Good stuff!!!