Life and times!

Adversity. I would never have amounted to anything had I not been forced to come up the hard way.—J.C. Penney

This quote is so powerful and I too am glad that the road to my success wasn't paved with hand outs and gimmes. I've earned my status and didn't go through life thinking the world owed me something because I've endured hard times. Life is truly what you make it and I'm happy that I used those rough times as a catalyst to do better instead of whining and complaining.

I'm sure many of you can relate to the quote and now we have to teach those coming up the value of it.

There's too much spoiling of kids, wanting or expecting hand outs, and just being lazy going on instead of a proactive stand being taken. If a homeless man can go on to build a multi-million dollar empire, there are those who can at last get off the street. Granted, there are sometimes statutues and limitations that are beyond ones control, but if you're not at least willing to try, then there's no one to blame but yourself.

Just thought I'd put this out there as I just finished listening to someone baby their 23 year old daughter who bounced a check because she "thought she had time to get her nails done before the check cleared and she made her next deposit". WTF? Yes, people; I really heard that and the parent bailed the kid out by telling her "where there was some cash in the house, but don't tell mommy". That dad is setting his daughter up for failure and she'll never grow up with responsibilities or consequences for her actions.

Adversity is a blessing moreso than a curse!

Guest blogger...

I made the mistake of opening my blog page with my kid sitting on my lap and she promptly and most efficiently demanded and took over the keyboard. The following is a result of her madness...

so im sittin here wit ma daughter and she is buggin and so am i. she is 14 and is outside her mind. i mean really she has lost it! idk what to do wit her but she is funny. she be wyliin' and always finds ways to make me laugh. im crackin up ash she is writin dis mess. i dont like her most of da time but i love her all da time. i want to fix her effed up typin but she wont let me. im bout to pee ma self from laughin and due to the fact ma 90 lbs. teenager is sittin on ma lap and bein a myspace feen! (( lol syke nah she not)) but anywaysz im in tears from laughin and she is takin this very seriously. she misses her pookie and wont let me use da computer cuz she wants to talk to her boo online but as soon as dat is ova she will be on da phone talkin to him. she wines and complains bout how she "loves him" && "missesz him" but oh well i love it! i jus love bein wit dem crazy a$$ kidsz (( they brightenin up ma stressful life)) i sometimes feel like ringin' ma daughters neck and throwin her across da room but i hold it back! yay me!! i have self control thanksz to anger management (( i even have da certificate)). I sometimes relapse but itsz only a minor one which involves throwin hard painful objects at people. BUT! i say sry and itsz all good...TILL NEXT TIME!!....OK YEA SO IM OUT NIGGASZ. ill get at ya lamesz lata!

love,
blujewel's daughter<3333


P.S...The contents of this post was NOT approved by the blog owner who was threatened with bodily harm if it were deleted.

Expectations vs Reality

I lifted this from Honey Libra

Expecting life to treat you well because you're a good person; is like expecting an angry bull not to charge you because you're a vegetarian.
--Shari R. Barr

When I read this I first laughed, but then the reality of it set in as being completely true. I'm one of those people who'll do just about anything for anyone without wanting anything in return. I've always been told it's a good quality trait to have; however, I've sometimes found it to work to my disadvantage because people have tended to take advantage of me and/or my kindness.

Nowadays I'm a little less willing to over extend myself for a few reasons

1. Because it's simply not healthy
2. It's exhausting to be nice/kind all the time because it can compromise my own happiness
3. Because sometimes it would be nice to have an action reciprocated

Cashing the reality check was as much needed as my vegetarian ass being charged by the bull. All that aside, I still tend to be a good person, not because I want to be treated in the same fashion I treat others, but simply because that's the type of person I am. I'm not going to go from zero to bitch faster than a Porsche because someone said or did something I don't like. Life consists of shitty things and shitty people and just because I'm a good person, doesn't mean others are. Some people are inherently bad and there's little anyone can do to change them.

My humble opinion is this; if you're a good person, be proud of that. Don't expect others to appreciate or reciprocate it. Do what you do because you wanted to and call it a day.

CUSStomer Service

I recently received a bill that was intended for me, but was sent to my parents house in Fl. I haven’t lived with my parents in over 20 yrs and I’ve never used their mailing address for anything, so imagine my confusion when mother told me there was a bill for me there. Not only was it a bill, but a Final Notice bill from AOL’s collections dept. Considering I cancelled my service well over a year ago, imagine my shock at even receiving a bill, much less one in arrears. In addition, they hadn’t sent any previous correspondence to me.

I promptly called the number to inquire about the alleged charges and was told they didn’t know why the bill was sent to Fl, nor could they help me, but I should call another number and they could. I called the 2nd number and got nowhere fast; other than a pissy ass mood. (by now, I feel my blood boiling) I then called a 3rd number, more of the same ensued and I was even more pissed than before. (can you say, blood is curdling in my veins) I went on to call yet another number and by this time, someone was gonna get the wrath of me (and did). The moron (and that’s being polite) not only tells me that his supervisor is with someone else, he says my paying the bill will resolve the issue. WTF x infinitum!!!!!!! Pay a bill of which I’m DISPUTING? He couldn’t have been serious, so I ask him if he’s serious and the dumb ass says yes. My ordinarily low blood pressure just reached terminally high in less than 2 seconds and I insisted he find a way to aid in my resolution before I reach through the phone and choke him. He gives me a fax number to send the bill to with an explanation as to why I’m disputing it.

The very next day, (cause I was too freaking pissed to do it that night); I send the fax. Mind you, this is now going on two weeks and you’d think these effa’s would have made some contact right? WRONG!!!

And folk wonder why they get cussed out and businesses get reported to the Better Business Bureau (BBB). That’s my next course of action and it won’t be the first time I’ve done that.