13 July 2006

Parting Is Such Sweet Sorrow

Okay, who the hell came up with that damn expression? $100 to anyone who can answer that for me. That expression is one of the biggest crocks of shit I've heard and I've heard a lot of dumb shit in my life. Why the rage? I guess it's partly residual effects of my being pissed off yesterday and for me wanting to close the chapter on something/one stressful in my life.
But back to the title. I think parting can be one of the best things that could happen. If someone was in your life that was toxic, wouldn't you want them gone? If something was more drama than its worth, wouldn't you want to be done with it? Wouldn't you be happy that you finally got rid of them? Yeah, of course you would, so that there is proof that parting is not sweet sorrow. Okay, maybe a part of you wishes it didn't have to come down to such a terminal outcome, but c'mon it was for the best. Normally, I'm the one who looks for the silver lining in hopes of some level of compromise, but to hell with that shit anymore. I'm currently of the mindset that sprinkling sugar on shit and calling it candy just makes for sugar coated shit any way you slice it; I just don't have the time or patience for that anymore. I've spent too many wasted years invested in people who were counter productive and I was always in the deficit while dealing with them; uh, not anymore. When I see signs, I'm taking notice and not making excuses for them or whatever they've done. I'm confronting things head on and will deal with it accordingly. If, in the process, it means terminating that person from my life, it'll just have to be collateral damage.
I think parting can be a liberating and wonderful experience. A little sad it ended maybe, but being sorrowful, ah the hell with that. Life is too short and I need to go find some goodness in this otherwise crazy world.

10 comments:

JC said...

WTF? Girl what is going on in your world? Not that I don't think this is a good blog, you just seem really angry right now. We all go through things and we all need to work through them. Hopefully whoever and or whatever is pissing you off, I hope you find a way to get through it. Be good ma!

blaqrayne said...

I'm sorry that you're going through a bit of hell right now. It may not seem like it, but there's always a silver lining. Sometimes it's hard to find, but it's there. As for your topic, parting can be a relief as you stated or it can be sorrow if it's due to something like death or a loved one having to go to War. It can be sweet sorrow when your child goes off to college. You're happy that she's moving forward in a positive direction, but you'll miss her so you're sad to see her go. I feel what you're saying and understand what you're going through right now, but I can't say that I totally agree this time around. I hope you're able to re-ignite your flame of joy and extinguish your pain. BIG HUG!

BluJewel said...

I have to agree with the addage you wrote blaqrayne and I'm certainly not disputing your analogies. My blog is emotionally fueled as I stated. I also know it has presented a darker side to my psyche, but it's still how I felt at the time of writing. I know good times are ahead and I'm willing to embrace them; sometimes you just have to excorcise some demons first.

Zeek59 said...

The quote is from William Shakespeare - fork over the money dear...

zeek59 said...

My most recent partings (divorce included) have all had some level of sorrow or sadness. After all, something attracted me to these people in the first place. Ok, one or two were just flat out time wasted, but I don't believe the adage is a constant.

PS. If you need a shoulder to lean on, you know were to find me.

BluJewel said...

I've since calmed down from what caused this outburst, though I can't say I'd rescind what I said. I still feel warranted given the circumstances that caused my cynicism. In revisiting the subject, I can agree with all of you that there is some sweet sorrow. Yes, there could be good reason, which can give cause for some sadness. Thanks for your patience with me and for your collective comments. This blog serves to how important your comments can be. Each of you in your own way, has brought me in from the proverbial ledge.

Oscar said...

Woosaaw, dammit!! All I can say is good bye, good riddens C-Ya in the after life (maybe)It's time for a new, long deserved beginning.
(yes I know the thought was personal) but hell, it works for me :-)

Starting over is not such a bad thing. If I could steal this from one of my favorite movies "everything that has a beginning, has an end" it's just one of those things that we all must endure

Anonymous said...

"Every beginning starts from another beginning's end."

It's from a song, but I can't remember what the song is called.

Interesting blog!

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