I’m so sick and tired of men deferring to their women as if they can’t do shit for themselves.
A good friend of mine was recently offered a new position with a 30k pay increase that she’s not sure she's going to take because she’s worried about her kids and not being readily accessible to them because the new position is like an hour commute away. I was like, are you )*%#)&%)# serious?” She’s a great mother and wife who’s more than sacrificed for her family. The position would be a great career move for her, but again she’s not sure because her husband asked her who’d get the child(ren) if they’re sick at school? MAN THE F*UCK UP BEYAH! You get them! You’d be closer and they are YOUR kids for crying out loud. As I said, she's more than sacrificed for her children and husband, so why shouldn't she do something for herself? *sheesh*
This leads me to other areas where men need to man up.
So, he knew the consequences of unprotected sex or not ensuring both parties are ready, willing, and able to take care of a child should one result from the union. Chick comes up pregnant and now he don’t know what he wants to do. She says, she’s keeping it and of course he’d have financial, emotional, and other paternal responsibilities toward the child. At first, he’s hot and wants nothing to do with it, but along the way changes his mind and he’s all in. Months after the child is born, he opts out. WTF? Chick moves on, raises their child, and then ends up in a relationship with the next dude who’s willing to love your child cause you won’t. Now his bitch ass wants to be up in arms cause the next man is raising his child? Bitch please! Should have played his part from the get.
Or how about when folk want to be up in arms because a stressed out young mother snaps and takes it out on the child? I’m not saying she couldn’t have asked for help or whatnot, but where was dude when she was stressed out and on her own? Where was some intervention PRIOR to her snapping out? It’s all her fault when something bad happens and not the father’s right? Wrong!
Grown ass men living up home until they well into their 30’s and even 40’s. What’s up with that? How can he have a functional relationship with a woman at his mother’s house? Dude, man up! Get an efficiency, split the rent with your boy, but living at home unless there’s some major change occurring is simply not a good look. Mother’s, STOP babying your sons and turning them into dependent and some times lazy men that can’t, don’t, or won’t do for self and expect some other women do treat them like their momma does.
Brothers, please stop sporting tricked out whips and living in the damn hood, projects, or whatever else you wanna call it. I mean, if you can invest 100k in a whip with full amenities, then you can afford a small crib. Yeah, it’s a given that for the most part, your whip was acquired by questionable means, but the same way you go the whip, you can get a crib out of the hood and take some of the damn stigma off yourselves.
Grown ass men dressing like teenage “thugs” is NOT a good look. Man up and wear something more age appropriate and put a damn belt on.
All this bravado and such is a full-fledged farce anymore because men just aren’t being men. Stop peacocking around flailing your feathers and just man up already. Seems like y’all the ones needing sanitary products these days with all the bitching you do.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my brothers I really do, but I’m just sick and tired of our men deferring out and not manning up to their responsibilities. Those that fit this bill know they’re wrong for how they’re acting. Yes, we know you’ve got it hard, yes, we know ‘The Man’ ain’t checking for you, and we know it’s hard being a black man; hell any man, but don’t make it easier for someone to emasculate you because you’re not playing your part. A real man does what he needs to do, takes care of his responsibilities, and strives to live and get right.
And ladies...don't think we're getting off easy cause I've got something else brewing where we're concerned.