19 June 2009

Not your garden variety P.M.S

A few weeks ago, I was having a conversation with My Girl where we were discussing the heinous crime that exacts itself upon us roughly every 28 days. We fussed and complained, but then decided that we must accept it as a part of our nature and instead of cursing it, just let it be. We figured if we breathed negative energy into it, the worse it would feel month after month. Now, for me, my "monthly contribution" is short-lived; however, still rather discomforting and something I wish would just stop. I'm going through chemically induced menopause as a result of the medicine I take, but I'm still menstruating, so the conflicts my body goes through is nuts, but hey, that's why they created meds to control the Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder-PMDD that I'm going through.

Anyway, I didn't bring you here to tell you about my bodily functions...I digress...here's what I really wanted to talk about.

So, My Girl and I continued to talk and we start talking about men, relationships and life. We discussed how we could flip P.M.S and make it something positive; something that we could center on and use effectually in our lives. We came up with Pure Mental Serenity...Our P.M.S. We agreed that there are so many things in life to be celebrated than to stress over a temporary; albiet an annoying factor in our lives. Together we spoke of how far we've come as women and how much we've overcome in order to be solid and whole women. We celebrate each other's ups and nurture each other through the downs and still find joy in the experience no matter what.

P.M.S is achieveable people if you want it bad enough. P.M.S can be retrieved by simply being still for a moment and releasing the pressure valve holding you mentally hostage; job/children/spouse/money or whatever stress. There are things that are within our power to handle and control and there are plenty that are not and it's at those times you pray, you have faith, and you hold the knot in that rope a little tighter. You give the problems over to your Higher Power and "accept the things you can not change". Your P.M.S will kick in and you will find that which will sustain you. And if per chance you're unable to having that P.M.S moment and need to let it all out; then have at it. Cry; kick; scream; take that drive, or whatever it is that provides comfort and you'll find the P.M.S will be right there with you as you've released the negative into the universe and made room for the positive to unfold in and around you.

My Girl and I have accepted this into our beings. We give and receive it as we continue to inspire, nurture, and encourage each other. God was very much in the midst of that conversation on that special day. He governed our thoughts and our speech enough to bring tears to our respective eyes as we realized the power, wealth, and magnitude of the conversation we were having. There is no greater joy than that!

We are all special creations of God's awesome love and wonder. We must accept that His way is not our way and that the trials we go through aren't because he loves us not, but instead because he loved us enough to die for us. He gave us a clean slate to work with and somehow we sullied it by sidestepping Him. When we attach negative labelings to so many things, it's no wonder why we feel so heavy-ladened instead of joyous. Having P.M.S can avert the negative formations in your life if you allow it to. What do you have to lose? I say, give it a try; open your heart and mind to a new version of P.M.S; you're gonna thank me for it.

Love to live; live to love!


blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Just think.... you are healthy and your body is functioning normally...and that is a reason to give God praise!!

Mr.Slish said...

Only u could turn PMS into a joyous occasion....lol

Ruthibelle said...

here's to pure mental sanity.

Blu Jewel said...

@ black woman - yes, I am eternally grateful for my health

@ Slish - hey, gotta live life positively

@ Ruthibelle - liff up we glass of whites an celebrate! btw, nice pic!

love to live; live to love!

Hawa Bond said...

Making me cry at work again? I should kick your arse.

I am going through a separation right now that could easily end in a permanent parting of the ways. I know for a fact that you're the reason I am not just okay but happy with the decision I should have reached months ago.

Do you realize how often our conversations are just the sprinkle of encouragement that I need to top-off my day?

Love you girl!

T.C. said...

WoW! that's all that i can say...i knew if i came ova here today i would get what i needed...THANK YOU!

Mizrepresent said...

Alright sis, the very best adaptation of PMS i could imagine...i'm adopting it today!

Anonymous said...

There is nothing more exciting then when women share their heart and are on the same page—explosive!

Strongblkwmn said...

That was awesome!

Carleen Brice said...

Great, great post!

Blu Jewel said...

@ Hawa - you can only cry if they're tears of joy. You've earned all the accolades expressed here. I'm more than happy that I can be a friend to/for you.

@T.C - You know I'm always happy to have made a difference in your day.

@ Miz - my soul sister, adopt away.

@ Believer - yes, it truly is beautiful when women can come together in a positive way.

@strongblkwmn - Thanks!

@Carleen - thanks for stopping by and for finding this a great post.

love to live; live to love!