24 June 2009

Hateration!!

I was at a party this past weekend and was so ready to serve up a smorgasbord of the above picture to the women in the house. Why? Because there was no need for all the visual hateration I was getting. I give props to all the full-figured women who sported their mini dresses, low cleavage tops, and very tight pants for their confidence. Hey, if you've got it, flaunt it they say.

Now, I'm 5' 7" barefoot. I wear 3-4 inch heels almost daily and 5 when I'm really feeling it. I weight between 145-150, have a 29 inch waist, and am considered fit by all health standards. I can comfortably fit clothes in single digits from the Juniors department and am damn sure proud of being able to maintain my body at almost 42 years old.

I don't make a habit of coming off as "all that" because I'm not "all that" as beauty is subjective, but let's just say, I; for the most part am not lacking for attention. I walk with an air of confidence because I am confident in myself, but am far from arrogant or conceited. Anyway, while at this party, the women looked at me like they wanted to throw me off the boat. Why? That's yet to be determined, but let's say it's safe to assume that my outfit was commanding all kinds of attention from both the men and women. I chose it because I was comfortable in it and also because I knew it would be hot on the boat. I didn't wear it because I was seeking attention as the haters might think.

My point of this is that I'm sick and tired of women giving me the side eye or mean mugging me because they think I think I'm all that. I also am sick of being visually criticized because I'm wearing something they wish they could have. Now, as I said before, if the full-figured women can sport their (sometimes inappropriate) outfits, then why can't I? I'm not going to start wearing a Burkha because someone is jealous or envious of me, my clothes, or my figure.

So, here's what I looked like...


Love to live; live to love!

18 comments:

Hawa B. said...

LMAO. I am sure every single woman in the place with low self esteem was "outed" when you walked in. You could tell them from the neck-snapping double takes, angry eyes, and steam coming off their necks.

My big ba'hind can't get into anything that cute, but I sure ain't hatin' on the sistahs who can ROCK. IT.

Kiwi™ said...

WTF are they hating on you for?

You look good!!!!!

Self-esteem is a beast I tell you. Tell the women they wouldn't be so jealous if they would stop eating all the HATER-TOTS! LOL!

QueenBee said...

Look at that girl with them daisy dukes on....you remember that song? Anyway, I think you look tight. Haters gonna hate, whether you do good or whether you do bad, so you make it do what it do.

Blu Jewel said...

@ Hawa - Your entire comment made me LMAO. Thanks for the vote of confidence.

@ Kiwi - thanks for the virgin visit. High self-esteem is NOT optional for me and something I'm more than happy I obtained.

@ Queen - Thanks for the compliment and yes, I will make it do what it do.

love to live; live to love!

Solomon said...

Haters love to hate, and that is the sad state of affairs we are in these days. Seems like everywhere I go there is somebody doin' so hatin' on somebody. It does get old. As far as I'm concerned the haters could just stay home and eat their Hatertots by themselves.

Mizrepresent said...

OH you did that sis! Gurl, let the haters hate...you are GORGEOUS...life ain't about worrying what others think about u...only what u think about yourself and u and i both know...u are gorgeous...Just DO IT!

SLC said...

See what had happened was....

I wore my size 12 on my size 16 self cause I knew I was going home with somebody then this li'l woman came in lookin' all fly and....

Inside and out. Looking good and classy.

SLC

Blu Jewel said...

@Solomon - Agreed, it's old. In fact, it's half past old.

@ Miz - I damn sure don't care what other people think about me; cause I know I'm God's creation. It's just sad that other's have to hate to make themselves feel better.

@SLC - LOL @ "See what had happened was..." As I said, in a previous post..."...confidence, maturity, and self-awareness is sexy". Hating is NOT!

love to live; live to love!

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there!

Werk it sista!

You look great!

chocolate girl ..... said...

im new...and i feel like in our society women are always pitted against one another i dont hinj its a hate thing going on i think its the fact that you hold an air of confidence that some of them dream of...were never taught as women (esp.black women) to appreciate someones character and beauty and not try to rip her down at the first chance...all i can say is go on girl!!!!lol

Mr. B2B... said...

I could do with your number...
leaving your physical beauty aside...
The attitude, confidence is a definite crowd puller.. (read sexiness)

so, how do i get your number?
chuckles...
I'm glad that the hater-ation happened so you could drop this post Bluey..
Real Nice!

Blu Jewel said...

@blackwoman - thank you my dear

@chocolate girl - thanks for stopping by and I'm happy that you enjoyed this post. I agree that women aren't always carrying themselves with the confidence they should and if that's the case, then they should seek assistance from someone they know who strong/confident to help them. I didn't get this way overnight, but am glad to be where I am.

@ Mr. B2B - LOL@ can you get my #. I appreciate your comment and yes, my being 'hated' on was a good thing, so others can learn to reach their own confidence level.

Love to live; live to love!

chele said...

You look FABULOUS.

See how easy that was??? Why is it so difficult for us to just compliment each other.

T.C. said...

CLEARLY they couldn't handle you...you looked absolutely HAWT!!! That's all that matter people always hate on what they aren't and that's THEIR issue

ebony said...

Did you say 44? Are you teaching classes 'cause I wanna be you when I grow up? You look good, honey. Keep on strutting your stuff.

Blu Jewel said...

@ Chele - thanks honey and so do you. Did you get that tat yet?

@ T.C - Yes, it's THEIR issue and NOT mine.

@Ebony - No, I'm almost 42 and LOL @ you wanting to be when you grow up.

love to live; live to love!

MOMSWEB said...

You go girrrrl. What's the saying? Don't hate me because I'm beautiful (lol).

Believer said...

You look good! Instead of embracing the confident beautiful woman that you are with a compliment or pleasant greeting, they took the childish route.