Question: Why is it that because a woman has or wants sex toys it's because she has a poor sex life and/or she isn't fulfilled?
Whilte listening to the Michael Baisden show, the topic was Swinging Couples. Though I’m not into it as a sexual practice, I won’t knock others who do. They’re grown and in charge of whatever they decide as a couple, so who I am to say what they’re doing is wrong or a hazard to their relationship. I say, “do you; cause I’m gonna do me!”
Naturally, there are always those who have to throw stones, quote the Bible, and give their overzealous opinion on someone else’s lifestyle. They detracted from the subject for a while and began discussing women and sex toys. There were many females callers who said they have them and use them proudly. There were a few callers who said they don’t, but were curious, and there were others who said they’d never use them, as they are unnecessary. This one caller caught my ear. She ranted and raved about how if a woman needs to use a sex toy, she has an unfulfilling sex life and or her partner can’t satisfy her. Oh, you know I was all it at that point, but first let me direct your attention to one of my favorite blogs; The Mistress Lounge. Now this is a woman who is all about her game. The Mistress is a keep-it-real-no-holds-barred woman secure in herself, her sexuality, and her sexual prowess. I wish I could have called the show and told the OZC (overzealous caller) to defer to that site. In addition, The Mistress has a post Field Trip, in which she details her recent trip to a sex toy store. (An interesting read to say the least).
Anyway, back to the topic at hand. So, OZC is blabbing away about sex toys and their inefficiency when she was asked why she never used one. She said that she found no need for them and that is why there are men. The rest of the conversation went as follows (not exactly verbatim, but close)
Caller: OZC has every sexual experience she had was good?
Caller: Ever been celibate; masturbated; or had an orgasm?
OZC: (offended): Don’t see the relevance of the questions.
Caller: Well, then you can’t see the reason why some women like sex toys, so stop making dictations on those who do. Using them (sex toys) doesn’t make women deviants. It allows them freedom of a (in some cases) one sided sexual experience of which they control.
OZC: But you’re excluding or substituting men.
Caller (laughing): No, it gives me what I want, when I want it. In addition, my HUSBAND bought me my first one and it’s for when I want to use it or when we want to add something extra to the experience.
They go back and forth for a few; then OZC huffs and puffs and then is let off the phone. Meanwhile I’m CTFU (cracking the fuck up) and wondering where these prudish women come from.
I’m a firm believer that unless you’re into some truly deviant shit (children, animals, necrophilia, and some other unusual perversions), then sex is whatever you want it to be, with whomever you want it to be with. Sex toys are just that…TOYS! Do we knock folk for playing X-Box, PS2, or Scrabble? Survey says no. So, I think sex toys are no exception.
*Note, this was supposed be post on Friday and called Freaky Friday, but I was busy. Hope it's still good for a Monday post?!